Before you discipline today…

Before you discipline today…

Before you discipline today… 1) Change your expectations. Are your kids perpetually falling short? Do they feel like they can never measure up, that it’s never good enough for you? Maybe you need to adjust your expectations and control yourself. Spend more...

When parents and teachers clash.

“Kirk, my son has come home dejected with red X’s and stomach aches nearly every day this year. He says he’s stupid and it doesn’t help that his teacher and his Dad say he’s lazy and just needs to apply himself. I know he IS trying. So...

Break a strong-willed-child’s spirit?

Break A Strong-Willed Child’s Spirit? Casey and I went for a walk last week after our workshop. He told me that a well-meaning Mom approached him and said the following: “God gave us two good children and one strong-willed son. He fights us over...
“I don’t need you to like me.”

“I don’t need you to like me.”

You must get comfortable with the fact that sometimes your kids are simply not going to like you or be happy with your choices. You must get comfortable with the silent treatment and feeling that distance. I don’t want you to be mean, short, abrupt, rushed, hurried. I...
Should You Use Screens As A Babysitter?

Should You Use Screens As A Babysitter?

So I want you to begin a new tradition that invests in your marriage and creates proper boundaries—don’t discount this. If you’re a single parent, you can simply do this alone. I’m going to dramatize this, but here’s what it sounds like. I’d love for Dad to come home...
Meltdowns, Nutrition, OCD, Not Listening

Meltdowns, Nutrition, OCD, Not Listening

So here’s a perfect example of getting to the root of the issue versus looking at outward behavior that we talked about in the last newsletter. I call this great Mom for our 52-minute phone consultation and this is what I hear: “My son is not listening to...