by Kirk Martin | Sep 22, 2016 | Calm Parenting
“Whatever you did to my husband has changed our family. I was hoping he could see a different approach other than my-way-or-the-highway. Well, something clicked when listening to your Bag of CDs, because my husband later admitted three things that blew me...
by Kirk Martin | Sep 21, 2016 | Calm Parenting
No matter what happened today, I know you love your kids and want the best for them. Even though you might not feel like it sometimes, you are a good mom! Read it until you believe it: You are a good mom! You are NOT a bad mom if: Your child doesn’t brush their teeth...
by Kirk Martin | Sep 19, 2016 | Calm Parenting
If society valued different traits, your kids would feel different about themselves. And so would you. Imagine if teachers sent home these different notes to parents. (1) Note to parents of compliant kids: I am concerned about Christopher’s behavior. He lacks...
by Kirk Martin | Sep 14, 2016 | Calm Parenting
Does your child ever…fidget? How about drum fingers, tap pencils, hum, sing, squirm, bounce legs, twirl hair, chew on pen caps or lips or other objects, rock in a chair, doodle, and move constantly? Can this be annoying? Often. Is this wrong? Not at all. Is this...
by Kirk Martin | Aug 28, 2016 | Calm Parenting
Dear Mom and Dad, I want you to know what it’s like to be me. My brain runs like a washing machine powered by a Ferrari engine, tumbling ideas like shirts and pants and socks mixed together. Sometimes I have so many thoughts swimming in my head that I blurt out...
by Kirk Martin | Aug 26, 2016 | Calm Parenting
Instead of hearing your child screaming AT YOU, hear your child screaming OUT TO YOU for help. Because most of the time, your child is looking at you and this is what they are really saying: “I am so frustrated and angry and stressed right now…and I don’t know how to...
by Kirk Martin | Aug 22, 2016 | Calm Parenting
When we try to force kids into a box, it causes power struggles and crushes spirits. Many strong-willed children desire ownership and like challenges. They are very purposeful. Strong-willed children often feel like everyone and everything is against them. They need...
by Kirk Martin | Aug 14, 2016 | Calm Parenting
This is simple. And it works. Yes, just sit down. The quickest way to change your child’s behavior is to first change your own. Adjusting your body posture will change your child’s reaction. Try this one simple strategy to stop power struggles. Sit down. Sometimes we...
by Kirk Martin | Jul 22, 2016 | Calm Parenting
When my son was younger, I didn’t like him. He wasn’t the kid I expected or wanted. But now? I wrote the following one night after peeking in at my son sleeping. I encourage you to do the same. I hope you will discover some common feelings toward your child. The Beat...
by Kirk Martin | Jul 17, 2016 | Calm Parenting
Q: Why won’t my kids listen to me anymore? Please don’t be offended, miss my point, or misconstrue my motives. I send this message because I want to FREE you from endless lectures that merely provoke your children to get upset, resist, or shut down. So...
