How Can You Get Kids Moving ASAP When There Isn’t Time to Be Calm?
So this is cool. A dad downloaded the new CDs and listened on his way back and forth to work. I’m always happy to personally answer questions as you’re listening to the new CDs.
Q: “Kirk, I have used 5 strategies already with success to get kids to listen and diffuse meltdowns. I like the succinct, direct, practical advice. I’m an engineer so this is perfect! But I do have a dilemma.
“There are times when we have appointments or time critical situations where you can’t just lay on the floor with your child. How do you get the resistant child to move quickly so we’re not late?”
A: Let’s assume there really was an emergency. Assuming you weren’t freaking out yourself, you would lead the kids out the door in a calm, authoritative way that is reassuring and confident with a steady voice and some intensity.
Think about how a military leader leads his men into battle. He’s not going to explain things, commiserate about how scared they are, and listen to them share their feelings. But he’s also not going to scream, threaten and create chaos.
(Listen to the two short podcasts below to learn how to control your emotions and tone of voice under pressure!)
He may take a knee, draw the kids (troops) around him, and say in a direct, matter-of-fact manner: “Guys, we’re marching now. We stay focused, we execute our plan, we move now.” There’s a confident, purposeful tone that takes charge.
He also gives his kids (troops) very specific jobs with some intensity. I’m reading about D-Day now and all the soldiers say the same thing:
– “I was scared waiting for battle, but once my commanding officer gave me a specific mission to focus on, the fear left and I did my job.”
– “The captains, lieutenants and generals we revered most were the ones who lead us calmly into battle upfront. We followed them because they lead with confidence.”
Try adding intensity of purpose and action to your directions–you’re not being intense AT or TOWARD the child who needs to move, you’re stimulating the brain with a purposeful mission.
“Son, I need your help. We have to get to our appointment quickly. I need you to be my navigator so find the quickest route. Daughter, you need to keep your eyes pealed for cops so I don’t get a ticket. Got it?”
Create a “march mode” routine. Maybe you have a special code word (kids love that stuff), play certain music, or create a family marching song-even if it’s silly. Use it sparingly but confidently. It’s a tradition you create in your home.
Affirm when the soldiers (I mean kids!) march well. Don’t forget this part. Give some intensity to it. Later that day, “Man, we were in a real crunch this morning and you guys saved the day. I know you wanted to stay home and play with Legos, but you guys really stepped up. I’m proud of you. Well done!”
Want to learn ten other ways to get your kids to listen the first time? Yeah, you do!! Want to learn how to calm upset kids? Motivate a strong-willed child who wants to do things on his terms? All without yelling, giving consequences that don’t work, and ruining your relationship? Good, we will show you exactly how to do this with real life examples. Because the quickest way to change your child’s behavior is to first control your own.
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You react when your kids push your buttons and just can’t seem to stop, even though you know you have to. You get on your kids constantly, lecturing and eventually yelling. It merely creates more power struggles and strains your relationships.
Only YOU have the power to create a new family tree and break these patterns so your kids don’t grow up and struggle with the same issues.
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You’ve struggled with this for years. It took me 22 therapy sessions and $3,350 to learn these steps. We’ve consolidated this and made it simple, practical, and easy to apply. The regular price of this program is going to be $300. But during this SPECIAL SALE, you get a step-by-step guide to calm for the price of one trip to a therapist: only $150. PLUS you get an additional 9 hours of practical strategies and GET THE BAG FREE ($150 value).
30 Days To Calm: Stop Yelling, Lecturing, & Reacting (1 CD + 1 PDF Workbook + 45-page Q&A)
Kirk provides 30 specific, concrete strategies to:
- Stop the lecturing and yelling for good to create a new family tree.
- Stop reacting when your kids, spouse, and friends push your buttons so you are in control of yourself.
- Break the old patterns that cause you to worry about your kids’ future and feel like you’re not a good enough parent.
- Get control of your time instead of feeling rushed, on edge and anxious. No more drama. No more anxiety.
- Deal with daily pressures of morning rush, traffic, homework, bossy parents, social media, over-scheduling your kids, and more.
You will learn how to control yourself…instead of controlling everyone else. Finally. Includes a downloadable Workbook and 30 action steps (one per day) to break those old patterns.
Bonus: Features a 45-page Q&A with answers to your toughest questions and strategies to overcome your toughest triggers.
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Get 9 hours of practical strategies and answers to your 100 toughest questions. Listen alone, listen WITH your kids, or have them listen alone. You will learn dozens of very practical, concrete strategies to stop defiance, disrespect, yelling, sibling fights, power struggles over screen time and homework. Plus your kids listen to Casey’s Straight Talk For Kids and learn to control themselves.
Stop Power Struggles with Your Strong-Willed Child (2 CDs, 2 hours). Kirk will show you how to cultivate a deep, trusting relationship with a strong-willed child who:
- Only wants to do things on his terms.
- Doesn’t care about consequences or anything you care about.
- Resists or shut downs when you try to talk to him.
- Would rather suffer and do things the hard way than do what you ask.
- Gets upset quickly over changes in plans.
- Feels different than his siblings and classmates.
- Gets the entire family revolving around his drama.
CD 2 Track 04: You can’t let strong-willed kids walk all over you. But tough discipline should always lead to a closer relationship. Listen how to do this even when your child is defiant.
Straight Talk For Kids (3 CDs, 3 hours)
Kids listen as a teenager (Casey) shows them how to deal with daily disappointment, anger, frustration, peer pressure, siblings, and homework.
- Kids feel understood, confident, motivated, and purposeful.
- Casey teaches kids how to communicate with parents respectfully to earn trust.
- Casey gives dozens of practical tools to handle sibling fights, organizational skills, focus, and social skills.
Discipline That Works: Get Your Kids to Listen the First Time (2 CDs, 2 hours)
Kirk will show you 25 ways to discipline without yelling to stop the fighting, lying, tantrums, whining, complaining and more. Learn to give directions ONE time… NO more repeating things!
- Give directions one time. No more repeating yourself, yelling or bribing!
- Stop lying, hitting, interrupting, tantrums, whining, and complaining.
- Teach kids how to control themselves. A must have in every home.
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If you have any questions or need help selecting the best CD/DVD sets for your family, please call us at 888-506-1871 or email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com. And yes, you will actually speak with us!